VR Expansion Plugin

i have the 4.22 version on my laptop and the 4.23 version on my desktop. Ive packaged both as development and kept the online subsystem as Steam. They are both on the same wifi wifi network and when i launch both and have one host via LAN and the other search via LAN also , it finds it but then when it joins neither session can see the other (im not using headsets yet im iust trying to get the system going correctly first) so it defaults to the vive fps. So if you could just help me understand what im doing wrong id id sooo grateful. Thanks again so much

Edit : Also without checking LAN the same happens. Ive also tried NULL as a subsystem in the ini file. But they still cant see each other.