trying to convert a character from ragdoll to controllable character is causing problems.

so i read some post on this form on the matter, but i cant seem to get past the problem were the character either stays in place and you can walk around, the camera will move but the actual body just mimics the animation. or if i change the order of the attach to (in the image below i changed to order of the target) it will fling to body across the map. how can i fix this?