One laptop to rule them all? Or maybe just cope a little bit?

CyberPowerPC has some great gaming laptops at decent prices (at least by current year prices):

Gaming Computer and Desktop Trusted Seller | CyberPowerPC

They aren’t super gaudy looking either like some gaming stuff.

I don’t know if this is any good, but it is made to be very easy to upgrade and repair: https://frame.work/laptop

Gigabyte Aero 15 YD

How has no one mentioned this.

I Use it for literally everything you just mentioned. I Had a mac M1. It’s great but you get so tired of being limited to optimized software.

I am so incredibly happy with my Aero 15, I cant even begin to describe.

The only thing that looks gamer-ish is when the keyboard is on RGB mode but that’s vary easy to set the way you want it. (normal white backlight in my case)

Its a bit expensive but worth every penny.

12th gen is still a bit unstable / ram caps at 32 to get full performance even on desktops.

That said, now that they are acrually avaliable Gigabyte Aorus XE4 is probably a better choiche.

From what I see, you should still have to replace most of its guts with better gear to use as a developer machine.

Anyway, I just wanted to tell people to stay the f!ck away from Asus.
This company in the middle of a shortage is producing s!it quality products to the point that anything you order has to be returned at least once.
This has now happened to my company with 4 displays, 2 rtx cards, 3 montherboards, and 1 cooler. ALL asus. ALL ROG.

Yes, if you keep getting new products shipped you will eventually get one that works - however, not sure for how long they will work.
Trusting that a Laptop which is definitely prone to overheating will not to come apart seems like a really bad idea. Particularly when from what i have observed so far the problem is the workmanship/sotering of components…