GPU Crash

I keep getting the GPU Disconnected or D3D device removed error,

I have an intel i9
rtx 2080
64 gigs of ram
and the project is on a 1tb ssd

it used to work fine before i reset my computer. now it doesn’t work almost at all on 5.4 or 5.3

when i start the render i watch in task manager it doesn’t even use 10% of the gpu or 50% of ram and it just gives up, even with warm up frames.

i have the virtual texture support enabled
in renders i add game override and disable flush grass streaming
i add anti-aliasing and add 1500 warm up frames.
i’ve tried changing texture streaming to fully load used textures

my gpu is up to date, i even tried to uninstall it and reinstall it.
i went into registry editor and added the TdrDdidelay

i’ve watched countless videos but nothing is working for me