VR IK Body - Support

Been rather stuck on offsetting the hands correctly when holding a object, tried just shifting the hand bone the inverse of where the hand socket is in bone space which worked but obviously caused clipping into the forearm.
i presume i need to use the offset in the effector location too, rather than offsetting it after the ik, but im having trouble getting my head around how to combine the transform of the object grip socket with the hand socket offset transform