How to kill enemy and get kill by enemy

You will need to setup health variables in both the enemy and playerBP as well as a damage event that will take away from that health variable when you attack each other. Something like this:
Setup in the PlayerBP and EnemyBP:

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This is an example of the FPS projectile with an Apply Damage node used to apply damage on impact:

That should get you started in the right direction