Think I found it for anyone else interested. Not exactly what I was hoping for but I see what they did and how to fix it. For anyone else interested:
PrimalEarth\Coreblueprints\PrimalGameData_BP
[Named Team Definitions]
Each of these are the different setups for what they want to attack, the “teams”. So the main herbivore team doesn’t have any teams listed to target since they attack nothing (unless provoked).
Carnivores have several teams listed to target. There’s several subdivisions between size groups as well as a tick box where they will only attack players (freaking ants have this checked).
Than to build off this (using ants as an example):
PrimalEarth\Dinos\Ant\FlyingAnt_Character_BP
[Targeting Team Name Override: Carnivores_Medium_TargetPlayerOrTamed]
This is where it sets which team the targeting is based off of.
Need to read the sticky on actually making a mod now that I have a plan and than will test it. Will be switching all the bugs teams to regular herbivore and seeing what happens. Like the idea of bugs, but targeting the stupid flyers just irritates me, not even taking into account server lag 