Thanks for all the help, i really do appreciate all the effort you went through to explain this, i have got it working to an extent right away, but instead of deleting the character, i am attaching him to the “seat” socket and playing the driving animation i made, so far so good, now i just need to sort out the overlap stuff so i cant get in when i am far away, as for the tutorial, i will put it on my todo list 
thanks alot.